Darling vs Philerast - What's the difference?
darling | philerast | Synonyms |
A person who is dear to one.
*{{quote-book, year=1959, author=(Georgette Heyer), title=(The Unknown Ajax), chapter=1
, passage=But Richmond, his grandfather's darling , after one thoughtful glance cast under his lashes at that uncompromising countenance appeared to lose himself in his own reflections.}}
* {{quote-news, year=2011, date=December 15, author=Felicity Cloake, work=Guardian
, title= Dear; cherished.
charming
A boy who feels philia'' or, more specifically, ''anter?s for his paederastic lover.
* 1924 : ,
* 1990 : David M. Halperin, One hundred years of homosexuality: and other essays on Greek love ,
* 1997 : “
* 2005 : Thomas H. Luxon, Single Imperfection: Milton, Marriage, and Friendship ,
* For more examples of the usage of this term see for'' philerast''.
To be sure, the pederastic ethos of classical Athens did not prohibit a willing boy from responding enthusiastically to his lover’s physical attentions: Aristophanes himself maintains that a philerast both “enjoys” and “welcomes” (''khairein'', ''aspazesthai:'' 191e–192b) his lover’s embraces. But that ethos did stipulate that whatever enthusiasm a boy exhibited for sexual contact with his lover sprang from sources other than ''sexual desire. The distinction between “welcoming” and “desiring” a lover’s caresses, as it applies to the motives for a boy’s willingness, spelled the difference between decency and degeneracy; that distinction is worth emphasizing here because the failure of modern interpreters to observe it has led to considerable misunderstanding (as when historians of sexuality, for example, misreading the frequent depictions on Attic black-figure pottery of a boy leaping into his lover’s arms, take those paintings to be evidence for the strength of the junior partner’s sexual desire).
Darling is a synonym of philerast.
As a proper noun darling
is , originally a nickname from darling.As a noun philerast is
philerast.darling
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Alternative forms
* (informal) *Noun
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Synonyms
* * * *Derived terms
* media darlingAdjective
(er)- She is my darling wife of twenty-two years.
- Well isn't that a darling little outfit she has on.
Usage notes
darlinger is rarely used.Anagrams
* English affectionate termsphilerast
English
Alternative forms
* philerastesNoun
(en noun)page 40
- When in turn they reach man’s estate they love youths themselves[; i]n general terms such people are either paiderasts or philerasts , being always attracted by kindred kind. But when a boy-lover, or any other, chances to meet his own original half, they are both seized with an ecstasy of affection and intimacy and love, and can hardly bear to be separated for as much as a single instant from each other.
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- [The Ancient Greeks] also had a word which can be rendered ‘philerast ’, meaning a boy who loves his lover.
page 140
- Milton strained to redefine marriage as the friendship Socrates recommended — an erotics beyond the sexual. As a result, his notion of marriage sometimes looks a lot like a heteroerotic paederasty, with Adam as the paederast and Eve the philerast destined never to outgrow the role of student and beloved.
Usage notes
* In the intended meaning, the form of love (anter?s'') which a philerast feels for his erastes emphatically does ''not'' derive from ''sexual'' desire (although it may have a physical component).1999 : ''Same Sex: Debating the Ethics, Science, and Culture of Homosexuality'', edited by John Corvino (1999;Rowman & Littlefield]; ISBN 0847684830, 9780847684830), [http://books.google.co.uk/books?id=CElt55US79QC&pg=PA370&dq=philerast page 370, footnote ? 25
To be sure, the pederastic ethos of classical Athens did not prohibit a willing boy from responding enthusiastically to his lover’s physical attentions: Aristophanes himself maintains that a philerast both “enjoys” and “welcomes” (''khairein'', ''aspazesthai:'' 191e–192b) his lover’s embraces. But that ethos did stipulate that whatever enthusiasm a boy exhibited for sexual contact with his lover sprang from sources other than ''sexual desire. The distinction between “welcoming” and “desiring” a lover’s caresses, as it applies to the motives for a boy’s willingness, spelled the difference between decency and degeneracy; that distinction is worth emphasizing here because the failure of modern interpreters to observe it has led to considerable misunderstanding (as when historians of sexuality, for example, misreading the frequent depictions on Attic black-figure pottery of a boy leaping into his lover’s arms, take those paintings to be evidence for the strength of the junior partner’s sexual desire).
